What's Your Legacy?

Posted on February 6, 2018 by Tony Cicenas in Article from The Messenger

If you were to die today, what would your children/grandchildren/friends say would be the top five things they would never forget about you?  In a more simpler way, what is your legacy?

Parenting/grandparenting is a huge job.  It is much easier to be specialized in the workplace than to answer all the questions of a curious child.  It is easier to be the same thing to everyone than to be everything to someone.  Home is where the tedious, frustrating, thrilling, and rewarding task of raising our children takes place (not the church).  It is the stage where the drama of life is played out. 

“Blessed is the man who fears the Lord, who finds great delight in his commands.  His children will be mighty in the land; the generation of the upright will be blessed” (Ps 112:1-2).  Our primary need is to believe the gospel and live in response to God’s call.  The more my heart is captured by grace and delights in God’s Word, the more my children will be deeply affected.  Our emphasis must be on relationship – first, vertically with God, then, horizontally with each other.

88% of those who grow up in our evangelical churches leave at age 18 and do not come back.  Our families have fallen victim to the American culture.  American Family Association research shows:

•    Only 34% of America’s families eat one meal together each day.

•    The average father spends only 8-10 minutes a day with his children.  This includes television and meal times.

•    Only 12% of America’s families pray together

•    The average couple spends only 4 minutes of uninterrupted time together a day.

Examine your family.

•    Is it a cohesive unit or a disjointed collection of individuals?

•    It is on mission for God or unsure of its mission?

•    Is it flowing or fumbling?  Disciplined or destructive?  Purposeful or pointless?

•    Is it honoring the Lord with its time?

When Satan attacks, what is his target?  Simply, it is the family unit. 

According to Deuteronomy 6, the family should work together, eat together, talk together, worship together, and play together.  (info taken from “Family to Family: Leaving a Lasting Legacy” by Dr. Jerry Pipes and Victor Lee)

My challenge is this: what does God see in your family unit?  What steps can you make to ensure your family is more God-honoring?

--Tony