Bearing to Heal

Posted on April 4, 2017 by Steve Willis in Article from The Messenger

“When you share a painful memory
it begins to lose its power over you.”

I don’t know who first made this quote, it’s not in the Bible, but I believe the principle is there.  Hidden sins only dry up the bones.  David writes,

When I kept silent about my sin, my body wasted away
Through my groaning all day long.
For day and night Your hand was heavy upon me;
My vitality was drained away
as with the fever heat of summer.
I acknowledged my sin to You,
And my iniquity I did not hide;
I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord”;
And You forgave the guilt of my sin.
Therefore, let everyone who is godly
pray to You in a time when You may be found.
Psalm 32:3-6

Even after we confess our sins to God, James 5:16 states that we are to confess our sins to one another.  It doesn’t mean everyone has to know, but this verse communicates that it’s healthy for us to have some accountability for our sin.  We need to confess to the person(s) we have sinned against and to those who can walk us through our recovery from the effects of the sin.

But what about painful memories that aren’t our fault?  Maybe there was no sin on our part.  Maybe someone sinned against us and caused great hurt in our lives or the lives of those we love.  I still believe hidden pain only festers and causes further emotional and even physical damage when we suppress it. We need, YOU need, to share your pain with someone else.  We are called to bear one another’s burdens (Gal. 6:2).  I’m not talking about airing all our hurts on social media sites; I’m saying each one of us needs individuals we can trust who will listen to our pain.  When we get those suppressed hurts out in the open, I think that’s when healing can begin.

In the last 48 hours, some on our staff have been blessed to bear the pain of searing loss with our brothers and sisters in Christ.  The healing is beginning.  We will walk through the pain together.  The path of Painful Memories was never a road that was meant to be walked alone.

–Steve