In times of disagreement with my wife, I must say that I’ve never been tempted to go live on the roof.
Proverbs 21:9 says, “It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.” I may be banished out of the bedroom, and to the couch, but the roof seems a bit extreme. Solomon is pointing out that a wife who is constantly sowing discord within the marital relationship does nothing but drive her husband further away.
He continues this idea in verse 19 of the same chapter, “It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman.” As I read a verse like that, I imagine a man who lives in a desert land with a quarrelsome wife reading this and thinking, “What bad luck!”
To be sure, there’s a message to wives here. A wife’s goal should not be to constantly nag her husband into doing what he needs to do. Trust me, I know that husbands have many shortcomings. One of those shortcomings is not loving his wife like Christ loves the church. If husbands love their wives, wives respect their husbands. If wives respect their husbands, husbands love their wives. It’s a beautiful, reciprocal relationship that God places us in when we are joined to another in marriage. If you’re married, make sure you thank God for the gift of marriage today and do something special for your spouse. If you’re not married, pray that you can honor the Lord and serve him in your singleness.
“However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband” (Ephesians 5:33).